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Oh, I remember my search and reunion. I drove to the library every day (we didn't have a computer) It was all I could think about, talk about, dream about. My dear husband was very, very patient. He knew that I had been "searching" all of my life and that I really needed to "KNOW". He even went on little searching adventures with me. He flew out to Seattle for my reunion and bonded with my siblings!
Reunion is a very, very emotional time. I remember thinking I was ready - no "hidden" emotions here. Ha! Was I wrong! There were ups and downs and overs and outs to be dealt with. And I truly believe that only another adoptee can really understand.
Maybe talking candidly with your spouse - women love to discuss feelings even though I know it may be hard for some men. Be open, be honest and include her too. Has she read any of the posts on this site? Sometimes that gives an insight too.
As for your kids - mine thought I was trying to replace their beloved grandparents but once they realized that that in no way was going to happen - they really enjoyed meeting their "new" relatives too.
Happiness always...
Snuffie
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