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private adoption
My son's adoption was private. I am a birthmom, and did not decide on adoption until I was almost due. One of my best girlfriend's knew a friend of her sister was trying to adopt, and passed my information along. That friend was not interested (and, was actually pregnant at the time but didn't knwo yet), but passed the info along to another couple that we elected to go with. For us, it all came together very quickly; they were actually on vacation when the link-up happened, and within maybe 2 weeks, we had met with their lawyers and were set. We never met them; my theory was always that if it came down to that, no one would be good enough, and I would lose my comfort with them as a family. I know their address and names, they know my mother's address andmy maiden name. They cut off contact with me when my son was about 6 months old.
For us, it went well. Maybe not as smoothly as it should have, legally, but the adoption itself went fine. I would have no problem reccomending a private adoption in the future. On of my best girlfriends placed through and angency, and I don't see where her adoption was any too much better or smoother.
Ress
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