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Originally Posted by loveajax
Whitetiger, did you agree that the baby would call you "mother" and her "mom"? I guess I could see myself still "referring" to myself as a mother (I am an amom) in conversations. (sorry, I'm confused).
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I did not agree with the amom to be called mom and mother. Originally I was to be known as mother and her and her husband to be mom and dad or mommy and daddy. Then when my child got older she would decide if she wanted to call me mother, mom, by my name or what not.
And I do not have a problem with the amom wanting that title or to have them all but I do feel that she should not have agreed to one thing and then change her mind down the road. And that she should have came to me sooner if she had a problem and not use a special occasion as a time to bring it up.
I love my DD to death and I am very happy with the decision that I made and the family that i picked. I love them too and trustthem 100% in parenting my DD.
I have come to the conclusion that my main concern is that years down the road I am going to see or talk to my DD and not know how to explain who I am or that she will absolutely hate me because she feels that I let go of her completely and don't care about her. Which is absolutely not true but you never know what how she would feel about the situation and her just blame me for everything.
I am thankful for the adivce though I guess I just have to bring this up before it goes to far and we can't go back and fix it.