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Old 03-15-2008, 07:58 AM
jenniferm.bailey jenniferm.bailey is offline
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Originally Posted by meghann
She didn't hurt him. His parents did, by keeping it from him for so long.

It's not the telling that hurts, it's that it was a secret in the first place.

ABSOLUTELY!!! thank you for your response!!

The husband/wife relationship is a sacred thing. I would be DEVESTATED knowing my husband knew such an life altering secret from me..

Please understand your husband is going through HUGE processing of this. His truth as he understood has been FOREVER changed. It will take a while (maybe even years) to process everthing. Would your husband be willing to talk to a therapist to help him process these feelings?

I wish people understood before making snap judgements that there IS NOT textbook procedures for adoption issues. Sure there are general and broad procedures, but EVERY case is indivdual with it's own special cirumstances..

Best of luck to you, please keep us updated.

Jennifer
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