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[quote=alynp] Also, you wouldn't change his family history - it has already happened - you would bring awareness of his history into his life. Perhaps he has always known something was off with his parents but couldn't figure it out.[quote]
Thank you Alynp for your points of view!! We are talking about grown adult bsiblings.. They certainly have the right to know, and choose with whom they have a relationship with.. It would be entirely different if we were talking about a young child, incapable of processing the situation.
In my own situation, I was a complete secret to my bsiblings on my bmother's side. My bsister has let me know she would like to get to know me, when it is a good time for her. Again, I completely respect her decision, and am patient and hopeful she chooses to proceed with getting to know me. I also respect her time with processing all of this.
On my b-father's side, I had 5 bsiblings that couldn't wait to get to know me. What an amazing feeling.
I am just so grateful to know their are similar situations out there with adoptees feeling similar un-explored, mixed emotions. Thank you to all that contribute..
Good luck, and please keep us updated with the progress!!
Jennifer
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