[chickymum]

OK, first all your best friend is NOT your best friend. If she thought there was a problem with you becoming parents then if she was a real friend she would have come to talk to you about it.
And second you are not being punished by a having a difficult time adopting because of the first one going wrong. God just has his reasons that we have to accept.
It is difficult to feel OK about moving on because the treatment that you recieve from others is extremely haunting. I remember a comment my husband made when we went through a disruption was 'I guess we about to find out who our true friends are'. He was right.
Even the SW's were horrible. We were grilled for months about what we did wrong and it must have been all our fault. (These were 'ministry of children and family' SW's so next adoption is through a private agency.)
I am glad you are working through what you need to and I pray that things start to move for you soon. In the mean time remember that good things can sometimes come with time.