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The thing with the nicknames and theme was that that was going to be how my daughter recongized me. Things I would buy or get her would have that theme so she in later years could be like "my mother or birthmother (what ever she choses to call me) bought me that"
As far as the nickname it was a discreet way for me to refer to my daughter without the entire world knowing especially my family that I had a child. I am not ashamed of her but I don't feel that my family and others are ready to know that I was pregnant and made decisions without their consent.
The theme I picked was one that I felt comfortable with and that my daughter has been surrounded by since she left the hospital. I bought her outfit that she wore home first stuff animal and blanket according to that theme.
I know that the parenting calls are left up to the amom but it feels like she is trying to take the connections i have away or make them her. I can understand were she is coming from but I am not quite sure that she understands it from my point of view. That even though this is hard for her it is harder for me because there are just certain things because of the decisions I made I will not be invovled with or be albe to see my daughter do.
I really just want me and the aparnets to have the best relationship possible and to havethe best relationship possible with my daughter.
Thanks for the advice though it is putting some things into perspective for me and helping me figure out a way to approach this situation.
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