[jessibird]

Thanks for the advice-I did call her and talk to her today. I couldn't stand feeling so bad about it. I just straight out told her how she hurt my feelings and then started to bawl-telling her how much we want this as a family and how much it means to us. I told her that it also hurt that she has been so negative and we doing it with or with out her, but we wanted it to be with her. I said, "What kind of person do you think I am" refering to asking her for money. She felt so bad, she said she didn't mean to be so negative and she just meant for us not to ask for the whole $$ lump sum. (Like I would) (I have some neices and nephews that keeping asking her for $) She also said she was glad I said something instead of bottling it up-so we are all better. She appologized about 5 times and then started asking some really caring questions about the process. I think she was surprised I already knew so much and was getting very prepared. She said at the end that she was proud of us.
I know we may encounter others who may not have the best attitude, but I have to stay calm and not let it all get to me. I just keep focusing on our family and family to be :-)