[Sheba]

Hi,

I know how you feel. My Mom was over the moon and just as happy as could be. When we decided to adopt Kennedy from China, we were so happy we wanted to shout it from the roof tops. Everybody we told as far as friends and my family were happy. But when we told my Father in Law, he was rude and very mean. First he asked why and how could we afford it because we already had 3 bio children. My mouth literally dropped on the floor. After a while, I said that was none of his concern and I did not really care anymore if he like it or not and that he could stay away! Then he asked later if we could get what he called an Amasian! Yep! Mouth again dropped on the floor. I told him we were not ever at war with China and there were no mixing of americans and chinese out there but that again he could stay away if needed and finally I had to tell him how rude he was being and that I no longer wanted him around our children. His girlfriend also told him how bad he was. And when it comes to money; my hubby is a nurse and I am an Accountant, we do not live in the getto and have never asked for anything from anybody! We went ahead with the adoption and blew any comments he made off! Then my hubby'a aunt's all went just crazy and excited about our adoption. They must have talked to him because he started getting a somewhat better attitude and actually tried to apologize. I told him it was fine and he was intitled to his opinion but it meant nothing to us as a family. We have now been home two years and we are adopting again. I am somewhat surprised and happy to say, my FIL loves Kennedy to death and has apologized for everything. He admitted he was scared of her race and who knows what else but that he could not imagine not having her in his life. He is very excited about us going to adopted Kelsi and I am happy he turned over a new leaf!

Good luck to you, this is just my story. In all honesty if he would not have changed, he would no longer be welcomed in our house. I will not tolerate people treating our kids different, playing favortism and just being rude to my children no matter who they are!