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Originally Posted by Mommy24
My advice would be to send birth mom a letter explaining that you wish to try and have a relationship with birth sister. Let her know that you want to give her the chance to talk to her daughter first but if she isn't willing to do that then you will contact her yourself. Doing it this way shows birth sister that you aren't trying to cause heartache in the family and that you did give birth mom the option of being honest with her daughter first before making contact on your own.
Best of luck!
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I agree with Michelle's advice. I acutally found my half sibilings on facebook. Being that I tried ABSOLUTELY EVERY way possible to contact my bparents directly, but there were NO current numbers or addresses to be found. I searched tax records, etc...
On my bmother's side I was a total secret. My half sister has said she would like to get to know me, but it wasn't a good time for her right now.. She said she couldn't speak for her mother, but she would like to get to know me.. I have to learn to be ok with not ever getting to know her, and let go.
My bfather's side was a totally different scenario. The are thrilled that their family was found.
I will pray for you.. Your bmother's daughter is an adult, and absolutely capable of choosing her relationships.
I will keep you in my prayers that is goes as it should.
There is no way NOT to totally disrupt her life, so just be patient, and ready to wait.. Let her know you are willing to have whatever relationship she chooses to have with you, when she is ready..
Hope this helps. I am thinking of you
Jennifer