M is 2.5 years old and I have known him for 7 months he has lived with us for 8 weeks. Before he moved in he was on his best behaviour(no rages, ect) and we had a strong bond. Now that he has moved in and I have to deal with the rages(not so much now), the hurting himself and the day to day things he does to "get my goat" our bond seems to have vanished. Some days I cant wait until DH gets home and I can leave DS alone and basically get away from him. Sometimes I feel just as bad as his aunt who never hugged him or anything.
His behaviours that have come up are rages(which are mostly gone), scratching himself until he bleeds, picking his nose until it bleeds while in timeout, and now he can even force air through his nose in such a way that he has a bloody nose. Also he has started biting me. It is hard to want to hug a child that may bite you.
But when we go to a friends house or to the mall even though I feel the need for some space between us I hold him the whole time or am very possessive because I do not want others to pick him up ect. Because finally he is mine. This change in actions makes me believe there is a bond stillit is just under alot of pressure at home that gets pushed aside.
Also I am 8 weeks pregnant (I was told I might not be able to have children) and now I am facing another problem. Not only has a friend asked if I was going to give him back because I can have my own now. NO!!! But I am wondering if I will feel the same for both of them. If M will be pushed to the side because of the new baby and the fact that the baby does not have any attachment issues. I know I am probably being paraniod but arn't pregnant women good at that
