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Hi Lynn,
I hear ya and that is my point...there is a lot of baggage, especially with older adoptees. In our case our daughter was in one foster home with a couple who have two girls and took in foster kids all the time. Star was with them from six months until five when she came to us. They are also prison missionaries, so it seems a pretty picture, but she did have visits with borth relatives too until age three at which time for something innappropriate happening the visits stopped. So yes, those early years are crucial. Star can function so normally that no one suspects the underlying stuff that is happening...She is exceptionally pretty so she gets all kinds of attention for that too and seems to be able to handle but I think that does something to a person too and not always in a good way.
Thanks for sharing...it means a lot to me. I think when we pretend it is all roses... we deceive ourselves.
HUGS
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