[blondeboss]

DH and I will soon be adopting 2 sisters(age 14 and 18 mo.) This is the first teen we have had. I am having a hard time trusting her. She really is a great and 'normal' teenager. She is in the 9th grade and does so/so on her grades. I know she has only been in care for a year, and her whole world has changed. Especially socially. She is doing and experiencing more than she would have been able to do. I am proud of the friends she is choosing ( I think), but am worried about all the boyfriends. I caught her twice this week talking about things on the phone with her boyfriend I know she wouldn't say in front of me. I want to keep our communication open, and I confront her on things like this right away. New rule no phone in bedroom with door shut. If caught again, all phone calls will be in the central part of house. Now we do live in a very small ranch, so even when she is in her room, there is a lack of privacy. Anyone dealing with these isssues. Everytime she goes someplace, or tells me something, I end up not fully believing her. Is this my lack of trust, or my sixth scent? We are adopting her, and I don't want this distrust ruining our chance of bonding. She has been here for 6 mo. and I still feel we don't know the real her. Is this normal?Any thoughts from others who adopted teens would be greatly apprieciated! Thanks