[jalapeno]

Well, I'm new to this forum and new to forums generally. So I'm going through old posts! But I'm sitting at my computer, way past my bedtime, just fascinated by the notion that there may be other people out there like me. I have an adopted daughter (22 months), a soon to be adopted son (9 months), and a bio son (5 months). My family and family-in-law have been incredibly supportive. My friends have been as well. The thing that irks me is random stangers and 'acquaintances'. Most people think my two boys are twins. Depending on my mood I'll either lie and say they are or tell the truth and say they're 4 months apart. Why do I get blank and confused stares when I say they're 4 months apart??? Why??? There have been adopted children since human existence began on this planet. Other species of animals "adopt" young. Why should it be such a strange notion? Why should I have to spell it out for people who have no real business drilling me about the specific details? I strongly suspect I'm just getting a glimpse of what it's like to be an adoptive parent. I'm fully up for the challenge but it's nice to know others may be in a similar boat.