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Well if they've seen pictures it makes it much easier...she just needs to give the face a name and call it their sister. She can explain to them that she (you) grew up in another home but that you're all grown now and have a home of your own.
At that age they may not have as many questions as she fears but by telling them in a very matter of fact way, not teary and emotional, will help them accept it as just a regular part of life.
I told my daughters (13 &2) about their older sister just after I had made contact with her. I printed out the picture I had of her and asked the older one to get it off the printer for me - I knew she would study it on the way. When she handed it to me she said - "who is she, she looks like us"...the conversation got rolling from there...and it was a LOT easier than I thought it would be.
They may not understand it all, they might be upset because they were lied to...bu they'll feel the same way when they find out about Sant, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy...KWIM?
Best of luck and Congrats on your reunion!
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