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How do I deal with my anger? Same as always. Bury it. It feels like when I've expressed it to them it either gets denied when I'm told it's not valid for me to feel anger (usually my dad's response) or just plain ignored (my mom's response).
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Then I think all bets are off.. If you are not treated with the respect you deserve then you owe them nothing.. nada..
Why are we the ones that have to sit and churn and be resentful and angry?
If they wonder why they are alone in their old age then let them wonder.. consequences of actions and all that stuff..
My dad was in a great need of my sisters and my love and help at the end of his life.. He learned to keep his mouth shut when the words were trying to spill out when I arrived in the nursing home.. A lesson.. and I forgave him..
But I would not take any of it from him after that.. He had no power over me.. My mom I just avoided as much as I could.. and I did not really show her love before she died..
Accepting that they are wrong.. as wrong as it gets helps..
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My Mom has never met a boundary she didn't cross..
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What a great line..
I had to stop my mom from the verbal abuse.. I had to stop her from calling me up and telling me what was wrong with me.. I hated those phone calls.. But I could not stop her.. I just told her no.. and got the heck out of there as soon as possible..
I do not want my kids to thinking this way about me.. I make sure they do not.. or hope I do..
Jackie