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Update
I contacted the kids' NE GAL. She says she cannot help because even though technically the subsidy is for the children it doesn't work that way. She suggested we ask our TX adoption attorney for advice.
Unfortunately, we are all frustrated with our local adoption attorney. She won't return calls or e-mails (except occasionally at 4am!). Nebraska has already paid her so we can't really switch.
The kids do not have a TX GAL and no one has ever mentioned it as an option. I had their TX caseworker look over the subsidy and she said the amount is more than they would get if they were TX children. TX post adoption services aren't that great anyway and we will have the RTC in writing. So far they might even be giving us an additional monthly amount for respite ($167), but that is only in the "rough draft" of the subsidy and might be removed.
At this point we've decided just to go ahead with our daughter's adoption - she needs it desperately. It is effecting her attachment negatively to have this drawn out this long. We got the major thing we were concerned about (RTC), and we never really got any other support anyway (our TX adoption agency is not capable of handling special needs children - only basic).
Our daughter will be 13 on April 13th so we were hoping to suggest finalizing on her birthday, but it's on a Sunday this year. Oh well.
We will probably delay our son's adoption for quite awhile. Between being a young teenager and having RAD, he's not sure he wants to be adopted anyway, and we need to be absolutely sure that life doesn't go back to the chaos it was before RTC and all the med changes. C needs the security of the finalization to feel safe and fully connected. I don't think it will make a difference to D.
Better get some sleep! It's going to be a long week.
Mary
Mom to D(14), C(12), K(11) and T(9)
"We may not have it all together, but together we have it all!"
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