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My dad always wanted a grandson, my birthson is his only one.
Worries, that's a good question. I think it's more about anger for me though. I feel like the 22 years of silence, of me not being allowed to talk about it, are being pushed under the carpet.
I'm angry that I told them I found him, they seemed happy and then didn't mention it again even though I was visiting them at the time.
I'm angry that they made decisions like I wasn't allowed to get therapy or enter a support group at the time and that they kept at least one letter from the birthfather from me all in the name of 'not hurting me' when they have never asked me what my pain has been.
So the fact that due to their physical location and financial position that they could get to know my son more often and better than I am able makes me sad.
I wanted an open adoption but they encouraged me to use a doctor who believed in the closed, move on, forget about it way.
I think it's going to take some time before I'm not angry any more!
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