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Old 02-29-2008, 06:34 PM
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My husband and I have had our baby for almost 2 months now. I feel like I have been a great mom to him, but my husband has all of a sudden turned into this monster. He is very jealous of me even getting near our baby. He's been very abusive to me both physically and mentally. He has not hurt our son in any way, but I feel like I want our baby out of this situation and I will do anything to remove him.
Then on a further post you talk about your baby being a little over a month old. Can I presume the problems in your relationship are a little over one month old too?

I think you owe your husband and yourself some counselling and some time to try to sort this out. He was your obviously the love of your life pre adoption, and so my advice would be to put some time into trying to reconnect as a couple now rather than looking forward to a quick divorce and sole custody. Are you still both living in the same house?
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I want to get as far away from my husband as possible
Did you share? Did you exclude Dad unintentionally? Do you feel this child is yours - solely yours - to love and care for? I know Moms are the care-givers in 99% of parenting situations, but every Mom learns that Dad has a special place in the child's formative years too.

This may sound harsh but I fear your reactions are far over the top. As a birthmother I relinquished so my child could have what I could not provide. ie. a two parent family. All marriages have problems, and all couples have disagreements. I don't condone violence of any sort but I suggest you look at the relationship between you first before you start court proceedings to end the marriage. It would certainly be "in the child's best interests".

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Last edited by kune : 02-29-2008 at 06:40 PM.
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