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Hang in there . . .
I am not sure where you live, but we are in Northern CA and were told that average wait was about 1 - 2 years when we were approved with LDSFS. After one year they then told us the average wait was 2 - 3 years. But then I have a friend who adopted 4 infants in 5 years (to the day) from the same office we were with. They were the same ages as us. You just never know. We had a great relationship with our worker(s) we had 3 different ones. I emailed them all the time to see if anything was going on. One year after being approved we also decided to do some of our own advertisting and used parentprofiles.com. I highly recommend it and it is very affordable for LDS families. Your office should have more info on it, but feel free to PM me if you want. But, to make a long story short, after we had been with LDSFS for 2 years and had 2 failed adoptions (both were matches through parent profiles) we knew it was time to move on. It was hard for us to know that we had been trying to have another baby for 5 years and trying to adopt for 2 years and we were waiting for an expectant mom to choose us, when she had lots of great choices. We know our family is not done yet (we are in our early 30's and have an 8 yr. old bio daughter). So, we prayed really hard and switched agencies. We are now working with our county and are very glad this is where we are. We are grateful to have a social worker making the placements and finding the right fit for our family. We have been approved with them for 5 weeks and have already been offered 2 sibling sets (which is what we have asked for), but we had to say No for different reasons. But with our new agency waiting for 6 months is waiting a LONG time. If you really feel like LDSFS is for you, be patient and I do think parent profiles helped me. It helped me to feel more proactive and like I was doing something. It was a lot harder emotionally to be emailing directly with expectant moms, but I needed that to feel like I was doing all I could and to know someone was looking at me. Good luck and hang in there!!
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