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Originally Posted by Scorpionflower
I want the adoptive parents to be seen as the child's only parents and if at all possible I do not want the child knowing he/she was adopted. It is my belief this would be best for the life long emotional well-being of him or her.
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Scorpionflower,
As an adoptee, I would say this.
Why would you want to perpetuate a huge lie against your child? Why would you want your child lied too about his/her origins?
Why you would ever want that? Would you want to be lied to about who you really are?
Trust me, your child will know something is different. She/He wont need to be told.
You are off base in your thinking here and advocating for a lie this big, will only hurt your child.
I apologize if I seem terse. From an adoptee's perspective, the idea of creating a big lie about the child's origins is very upsetting.
Kim