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For me, the part that I miss is having control over when we have kids. I wanted kids younger, but spent years TTC before we moved on to adoption. Now, I still feel out of control of the timing for our second child. We have to wait until we are picked. I also kinda missed breast feeding. Though I am a little ambivalent about it still.
Other than that, I would choose adoption over birth any day! I am quite involved in horseback riding. Often I have students that are returning to riding after taking time off to have kids and physically going through pregnancy really causes some difficulty in getting back into riding. So, I'm glad I don't have to overcome the physical changes that pregnancy causes. Hmm, now that I see that in writing it sounds kinda shallow. But, I don't really mean it that way. I'm just learning how to appreciate what my life has given me.
It took me years though, before I could not have a twinge of regret when people close to me got pregnant. Now, my cousin is pregnant and really really sick. That helps me not miss pregnancy so much. :-)
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