I know that my b-mom does not want to meet me because she has not told her daughter about me. It took me awhile to understand that she was not rejecting me, how could she, she doesn't know me. I do know that she was curious enough to look at my myspace page three times in one night, so I am holding out a little bit of hope that she will come around. I also had it a little easier because me grandparent did want contact with me and I was able to have some of my questions answered along with photos of my birth family. It will take time to get over the pain, but you just need to keep telling yourself that she is not rejecting me cause she does not know me. (ast least that is what helped with me.
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