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Well, I don't know how relavant what I have to say is, since we actually have the opposite. Our oldest is the only one that is not adopted (my four year old thinks that is quite sad that poor J was never adopted).
But, we have added children one at a time. When dd11 came to live with us ds12 and ds 8 were already quite bonded. There were some jealousy issues, but really not so bad. Then when dd4 came alone she was the newbie. She was also quite a bit younger than the other three.
Since the "new kid" will often need a lot of extra attention to make the adjustment you need to be careful not to have the others feel that you are disregarding thier needs. I have found that I have less problems with them being jealous of each other than with them being jeolous of the time and energy I put into each child.
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J, bio son: born Feb '96
T, adopted daughter: born July '96, adoption finalized Dec '06
E adopted son: born Sept '99, adopted November '05
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to hharm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
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