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THANKS SO MUCH to both of you (Tigger and jl) for sharing your stories. Since we are adopting an older child, it sometimes feels like we are the only ones. I VERY MUCH appreciate your offer of support and help when we finally have a child placed with us, tigger!! I'm sure we will need the help. We belong to a Foster and Adoptive support group too, but since we don't yet have a child we mostly attend because they always have an interesting speaker. The people are super, but are mostly foster parents already not necessarily adoptive parents of older children or going through the waiting game we are right now. Many have bio children and then decide to foster too. We haven't been able to have bio children so it will be first time parents...
Tigger - were any of the children that were given back to the bio parents ones that you were hoping to adopt yourself? My DH and I are resigned to the fact that we are fostering and all that it requires (returning children/giving them to others to adopt/etc). but how does it feel to help a child prepare to leave your house. It is the subject that no one really writes/talks about. Do you have any contact still with children that you fostered but didn't adopt?
May I ask what county you are in? We're in Monroe County and our agency expects it to be up to a year for a placement. I don't know if that is because there are a lot of foster homes, or if it is because we are first time parents, of if it is because of the age range we are looking for, etc.
Thanks again to both of you for answering!
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