[Rylee45]

When my daughter and I were close and things were going well in the reunion, she called me "Mema" and sometimes "Mom".

That was exciting for me to be called by those names. She told me she loved me. She was so thrilled about meeting me and it was wonderful.

Then her adoptive mother got so jealous about our relationship that she destroyed it the best she could.

I had always went out of my way to get her to call her mom when she (my daughter) was living with us for awhile. I wanted her mom to always know that my daughter hadn't chosen me over her and she had nothing to worry about.

I'm talking, I went out of my way sending the woman things that were about my daughter and doing everything I could to make sure the contact was regular so she DIDN'T feel as I was stealing my daughter back. My daughter fought calling her mom because she didn't want to bother with it. I however was insistant that she keep contact and call her mom on a regular basis. That was important to me that she do that.

It didn't matter at all with that, the woman still got angry and jealous and felt threatened and now has gone out of her way to keep my daughter and my grandchildren away from me. It makes me sick.

My daughter now calls me by my first name. It's ok I guess but it does hurt after she had called me Mema and Mom for so many years just to have her adoptive mom decide to stop her from even contacting me or ever calling me Mema or Mom again. Of course we won't be talking anymore since I wrote that email to her but it still hurts how the adoptive mom went about destroying our relationship.

The "a" and "b" do make me feel less important in the scheme of things. However, abreviations are abreviations. I guess I just have to try to not let that bother me. It's really not worth the stomach ache to fight it.

Rylee