[JPDakota]

I'm glad they're doing well.
Yeah, I get you. That's your experience. Mine, of course, is different. We run in different circles, adoptees in my case. It is always hard to get your arms around self-reported data. I keep debating doing actual research. Could be interesting.
There are some stats according to Adoption.com: In a study whose results are accessible at this site, 6 in 10 Americans have had personal experience with adoption, meaning that they themselves, a family member, or a close friend was adopted, had adopted a child, or had placed a child for adoption. (Evan B. Donaldson Institute, 1997). Roughly 300,000,000 Americans at 60%. That's a staggering 180 million personal adoption stories. Isn't that an awesome number?

But my larger point is that things like "most" bother me, like what I feel bothers other people. You are certainly not the minority on this forum. And you get to have your opinion. Everybody supports that. I have a different opinion, one that's not so much supported here.