[Oceans]

First my disclosure: I am in NO WAY referencing any current or past posts or being judgmental. I am honestly curious about the process adoptive parents go through in an OA. I have wanted to ask this for awhile but there never seems to be a good time so thought I would just go ahead…

When you “matched” with an emom, did you feel like you should interview her?
Or consider if you would want her presence in your life and what that meant?
Did the agency help you understand the implications of an OA and having lifelong contact with the emom?
Also, did you have different emom criteria the second time from the first OA?

Having seen the other side, I know the agency we used did a lot of counseling around what the emom’s criteria was and then finding parents who fit the criteria AND she felt comfortable with. Just wondering if that’s a two way street?