[lovingmomhappykids]

I have to correct this last reply. The rules in Islam regarding Adoption came from God, not the Prophets(peace be upon him) "experiences". And sometimes Gods requests went against what the prophet (Peace be upon him) had been inclined to do (for the best of reasons)before it was revealed.

What it comes down to is God knows more than people. For Years psychologists told parents it was better to tell their child they were adopted, but not allow them any contact. And this sounded great to Adoptive parents. This way they could keep "their" child all to themselves. It sounded good, but time has taught us that that does not work, it leaves the children longing for knowledge of where they came from. And the Birth parents often become Idolized. How many adopted parents heard "my real mom would not be that mean" But when children are raised knowing who their parents are and having some knowledge of their flaws they actually have a stronger attachment to the parents who actually raise them.

But as humans, we have instincts to protect ourselves. In the Quran God revealed that in this case it was more important to protect the childs family relationship. As a Muslim the verse that revealed this is very important to me. Because when the non adoption community acts like adoptees are over reacting in looking for their parents. God understand. He knows those relationships are part of who we are and we can not deny them anymore than we can deny ourselves air.

Muslims can and do "adopt" children though it is given different names and done in different ways. In Islam it is considered one of the highest charities to care for an orphan and there are strict rules in protecting an orpans property. In Muslim countries it is more like non parents are given custody of the children. But they are not allowed to sever or hide the relationship with the Biological family. And the parent and the adoptee(or adopted parents in childhood)still has a responsibility to keep contact. These are strangely things that most governments are just learning now. That open adoption is better for all parties.

The exact text is
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YUSUFALI translation of the Quran: Call them by (the names of) their fathers: that is juster in the sight of Allah. But if ye know not their father's (names, call them) your Brothers in faith, or your maulas{roughly translated as friends}. But there is no blame on you if ye make a mistake therein: (what counts is) the intention of your hearts: and Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful.


I just want to clarify because people often in their lack of knowledge imply that Mohamad made up the faith of Islam from his own experiences. And that would be like me implying that your religion is just stores. I understand When it comes to religion we all make errors and I am not trying to be insulting to you, I just want to clarify.

And because of these rules you will rarely find a Muslim Adoptee searching for a birth parent. Unless they are adopted in the US and the Muslim family was not given the name of the parents, but it is my experience that muslims tend stick to foster parenting and if they adopt it is an open adoption. There are some Muslim Adoptees searching, but more likely than not they are people who accepted Islam as an adult.