You have to look inside yourself to fill that void. Like you said there is no replacing a child. You have to fill yourself up from within before you are going to have anything to give to another, especially to an adopted child. Focus on all of the blessings you do have. Your children and yes, your husband that you made a vow with to make a life together. Consider whether or not the damage you would inflict on yourself and your family by divorcing is going to help with that void. You are hurting so very badly that you are forgetting to take comfort with the very people you should be looking toward. Take some time with prayer or meditation, whatever you use to find peace. Talk openingly and honestly with your husband about this deep hurt. Consider why you think adding a child to your home would heal that hurt and whether or not it is fair to put that responsiblity on that child. I wish you peace and a loving resolution to your pain. My prayers are with you and your family!
Julie
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Originally Posted by I need Alex
 Myhusband is dead set against adoption, I don't know how to change his mind... it is a battle that will end as me winning or divorce because this is how deeply I feel for thses children, I will take them on alone if I have to!
Any ideas on how to change his mind would help. We already have 5 children...one died in a car accident 5 years ago and I want to fill that void... not replace him, that isnt possible.
HELP! ANy info would be appreciated... Post reply! |