[Marie8888]

I just found out I am pregnant. We were told by a Dr. a few years ago we couldn't have children, we included this information in our profile. When and how should I tell my son's birthmother. It a semi-open adoption with pictures and letters. I have three times to tell her between now and my due date. Which do you think is the most sensitive?

1) When I will be sending the next packet of letter and pictures to her when I am 8 weeks along. I have my first ultrasound at 6 1/2 weeks.

2) Motherdays I will be 14 weeks when I send her a card and pictures. (Some how I think this is the worst of three options, but then again that may be because of my years on infertility.)

3) The last time before the baby is due would be 35 weeks that I would write it and she would get it when I am 38 weeks along. Is this too late to tell?

She is a very intellegent woman and I am afraid that she might see a picture on myspace or on-line somewhere. I don't know that she checks there but I try to be contious of what I post on-line that indentifies myself because I know she may check it.

Marie