[lucyjoy]

I don't know that there is a good answer for this. He has rights. If he benefitted from this program and is truely healed, sharing his past hurts him. (However, having raised a sociopath, I have serious doubts about these programs helping much).

As a parent who has been a victim of an abusive child, I have found that we hold little rights. I was repeatedly told by the facilities my son was in that MY life had no value and only HIS counted. One even went so far as to tell me that IF my son murdered me, the criminial courts would handle it but he'd shown good behavior in their program and was ready to move(and he was still telling the therapist ways he could kill me-told the SWer to, who found him an out of home placement).

I sincerely hope that any potential adoptive families for this child are given true and accurate information and that he is NOT placed in a home where he will be tempted to return to his predatorial ways or create new victims. That is a set up for his failure as well.

I don't know about where you live but I know here, one cannot obtain a restraining order against a minor regardless of the danger.

Linny-I fully understand your concern and your anger but I don't know what the answers are. It would seem in everyone's best interest for communication to be better then it is. How sad for all of us.