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Doinit4me,
I think you are very wise to be taking into consideration how "expectations" may affect your search. My situation is fairly unique since my birth mother is most likely an invalid, but I have been just been pacing myself as far as trying to gain information. I just wanted to share the advice that my counselor gave me, she pretty much said to expect the worst, to prepare emotionally for the worst case in my search, that way if I do find out anything good it will just seem like a bonus. In your situation I wouldn't necessarily say the worst, but I would say not to get into it with too high of hopes. I would like to believe with age and maturity that birth parents are better people than they were when they put a child up for adoption, but there is just no guarantee. Good luck!!!
Amanda
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