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Doinitforme, I think your name says a lot! It's about you. I just met bmom and sister last week and tried to keep expectations under control, they were mostly hopes. It exceeded my expectations in many ways, but others could have been disapointing if I set my sights to high. My bfather is an alcoholic and bbrother a drug adict, you dont know what you will find. I did find a wonderful woman who gave birth to me and welcomed me into her life, along with her daughter, the first sister I ever met. They are both so great, I did have an immediate connection with bmom and had no doubts it was her as soon as I saw her, which are things I hoped for. I also found out I had 2 sisters on my bdads side, who I pre judged thinking they would want nothing to do with me, until I got a phone call last night from one of them, and she was so sweet and eager to form a relationship with me, so I would be careful with expectations. You never know what you will find. I would have done it however it turned out, but I have been extremely lucky in reuniting. If you want a relationship with her, then I would be open to it, without expectation or judgement, and be carefull not to push.
I think your name says a lot, and I know its hard but you need to figure out your own reasons for wanting to know. I think reasons are better than expectations, could keep you from being hurt if you were rejected. I feel so bad for some of those stories that I have read on here.
While going through the search, I got pretty emotional, which changed me from just wanting to find her to wanting to meet and know her. It started out as a curiosity to find siblings (that I always felt I missed out on) and got more than I could have hoped for. Good luck to you in your search! I wish you the best!
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