[portlowski]

I am an adoptive mom and I cannot emphasize enough that you should not place your baby out of concern for the adoptive parents feelings. You should only do it if you are absoltely sure it is what you want to do, and only after really exploring how you would parent. You owe it to yourself and your baby to fully explore your parenting options.

Will the adoptive parents feel sad? Yes, they will. They might even be a little hurt and mad. But it is not your responsibility to provide a child for them. And believe me, in retrospect every adoptive parent wants to know the decision was made willingly. I don't want to pass judgement on this family because you said you like them very much, but at this point they should not be having a baby shower. This is your baby and yours alone unless and until you sign the TPR papers.

I am sure many of the women here will suggest you get some counseling from an objective source (not an adoption agency) also.

You will receive lots of helpful advice here and I wish you the very best in making your decision.

Ohh...also, don't pressure yourself to make the decision now!! You should allow yourself to make your decision after your baby is born. That can change everything.