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Although I am not in reunion, and it isn't on the books for anytime in the near future, I think this is an excellent topic. I am someone who is currently struggling with my expectations of my (adoptive) mom; and I believe, to some extent, she is dealing with the same disappointment. Expectations do nothing but disappoint. I think you are very wise to use the words "hopes" and "goals"--they seem far more heartfelt and appropriate (and forgiving, if they aren't met/fulfilled). Expectations are rigid things that we all have, of course, but they don't tend to be very healthy; perhaps you can help effect a change in the way people think about relationships with others--whether it's through reunion or biology or romance or just friendship. Maybe it's something we have to learn the hard way, but maybe if we know about the pitfalls of expectations beforehand, it won't be so difficult...
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