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i relinquished... abandoned... gave away... MY RIGHTS.
not the baby.
i did not abandon or give away that baby....
and yes, i agreed to the adoption of this baby by another family....
i agreed that a different mom and dad could provide the care that she needed... that they could parent her.....
i agreed that she would have a new mom and dad who claim those parental rights that i just relinquished....
i did not give her to them.... i gave them to her.
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All I can say is WOW...I love that perspective and I can relate to that view.
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I call him my son because he is and always will be to me. For him to call me his “Mom” is still to be determined by him. However, I know I have tried very hard to earn that honor for the pat 26 years and I’m proud of that.
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I still feel as if my DD, is just that, my daughter, but I am not her "mom"...unless she chooses to call me so.
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Julie I believe it's all in the 'processing' whether we move forward and heal ourselves. We all come to that in our own way...
As an adoptee what I hear you saying is that you reserve the right as a mother to an emotional, perhaps spiritual connection with your bdaughter...
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That is a beautiful way to look at it!
This is an exceptional thread, it really makes me stop and think about how I view things. I'm on my emotional roller coaster journey to reunion and I am trying to be like a sponge and absorb all the knowledge and perspective I can from ALL sides.