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I'm like a lot of others. I was adopted ... just as my brother was born. I never refer to myself or my sister as adoptees except on these forums and then it is only for ease and clarification. When I was growing up, being adopted was just the way to explain how I became part of the family. It never defined me - it was just a part of who I was. It was just like being good in math and bad in art, being able to run but not to touch my toes.
In writing and on these forums, I talk about birthparents but never used that term before. I still stumble over it when I talk to people - and use it and adoptive parents so that others understand who I'm talking about. I always know when I say Mom who I mean. It is kind of like having 2 sets of grandparents - you always knew which one was which and even though they were different, you still loved all of them.
I don't really like the terms but have no idea what we would use to replace them. Interesting question.
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