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Originally Posted by CarrieAnn1976
Thank you! I will probably just drop her an email honestly... however I worry so much about disrupting her relationship with her mom.. that would be the last thing I would want to do. I guess I will just take my chances. Thanks again!
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Reunion is a disruption of life - there is no way around that...but you can't spend a lot of time worrying about something that you can not control. And it likely would cause some friction between her and your mother – that’s between them.
I know you are concerned that by contacting your sister that your mother will be angry (which she may be) and that it will essentially ruin your chances or having a relationship with your Mother but, as you’ve said – it’s been 9 years so the chances of that happening on their own are already slim.
Your sister is 27, certainly an adult by all standards – she can decide who to have a relationship with and who not to. You won’t know if she wants to have a relationship with you unless you try.
If that little voice inside is telling you to warn your mother first, then I would honor that little voice...you need to do what you feel is right so warn her if you think you need to. You may also want to consider contacting the Aunt, she’s already aware of you and may be able to share some insight into mom and sisters current state of mind.
Best of luck to you on the journey ahead!