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I think life is unfair in many ways. I had a bone marrow transplant & chemo induced menapause at 29. Is it fair that some people have life threatning illness than continually be told to just be happy to be alive? No, not really.
I am so thankful for my son & infertility is that last thing on my mind, however, it took YEARS to come to terms with it.
The thing that is blantently unfair about adoption (instead of pregnancy) is I had no baby showers, no cards, no nothing to acknowledge my motherhood. My son came to me thru foster care so nobody knew what to do & just by saying "I wasn't sure what to do" absolved them (family, co-workers & friends) of any celebration of my becoming a mom. It isn't fair that I don't have photos of the first 3 months of my son's life. I'm also doing it alone - it's not fair that men are intimidated by an independant woman or don't want to date a woman knowing she may have fertility issues & they may want "their own" children in the future. (not somebody I'd want to date anyway).
Lifes not fair, but if the goal is parenthood it can be met thru adoption & bring more joy than the sorrow & loss infertility brings.
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