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Oh heavens, I'm with you. This was a choice that was made when she was young, I'm guessing. I'm glad that my birthmoms (two adoptions, two seperate birthmoms) didn't ask me what my views were when I was young. What matters is NOW. What type of parent do you feel you will be? That's the real question on their mind and heart. I dunno, personally, I think it's a private matter, not to be shared, unless you cannot live with yourself if you don't. It may or may not make a difference to the prospective birthmom. I must say, I never went back and pulled out any of my "regrets" from my childhood or late teens to twenties. What purpose would that serve? I supposed I could have been more forthcoming, opting to bring up my decisions I made in my younger years. I was a smoker. Once, when I was 17, I drank alcohol at my cousin's wedding and got "tipsy". I was a lazy student. . . I'm sorry. . .I just don't think that is what a birthmom is interested in. I would guess it's more like. . .who are you now, how will you raise this child, are you going to give this child a stable, loving family. And as far as "dismissive", from an earlier strand, oooh, yes, I thought that post had a very dismissive flavor.
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