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I'm not sure about morally wrong, but I do think it might be a bit short-sighted. The reason is that although you might think that you will *never* want anything more to do with them, in 1 year or 5 year or 10 years you might feel differently and want to get back in touch. And the 'yo-yo' effect (going in and out of you bp's life) IS DEVASTATING. I am the b-sibling to an adoption relationship; my mother gave up a child to adoption a long time ago. Seventeen years ago, the a-child found her and wanted a relationship. Then she decided that it was 'too much to handle' and dropped out. And then wanted back in, then drops out, then comes back, then drops out. Each time she drops out, I bear the brunt of my mothers heartache. (BTW, she's back now)
So if I was giving advice, and the only problem in the relationship was annoying habits (no toxic relationship), I would recommend going down to an occasional card or an agreement to talk maybe 2x a year. But to sever all contact can backfire if later you want to re-establish contact.
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