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Welcome to the forums! Your post took me back 17 years ago, the only difference is that I chose to keep my pregnancy a secret from everyone except the birthfather. I had no support to parent, I felt like the only option I had was to place. Just a few years into the placement of my son I came to the realization that the ONLY reason I had placed was because of my financial situation. I had all the love in the world for him, but I lacked the financial ability to give him what I "thought" he needed, when in reality by the time he would have "needed" all the material things, I was in the position to give it to him. There are so many resources out there for single parents, it can be done. If you have the desire to parent, you can do it. Today I have 4 wonderful kids I parent and I regret that I didn't have anyone to encourage me to give parenting a try, to encourage me to seek out the resources available to me to keep my son with me. Sometimes adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and often financial situations are temporary. Please keep in mind that EVERYONE can have financial problems, this would include parents who are in the financial position to parent and then suffer a job loss or whatever.
Adoption is a wonderful option, but it isn't always the only solution.
Best of luck and if you need someone to talk to please feel free to PM me ((((hugs)))
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"I have learned that people won't remember what you said to them, they won't remember what you did to them, but they will always remember how you made them feel"
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