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I am the A-Dad of a wonderful 2-1/2 year old little girl. We have the greatest open adoption I could have ever thought possible. We see both b-families fairly regularly. The b-mom's family is kind of far away but we have made trips to stay with them often. The b-mom and b-dad and his family are fairley close so we see them quite a bit. I know it's still early and we could have problems ahead but I doubt they will be too tough because from the begining it's always been what's best for the child. I am sure we will make some mistakes but if we are always thinking of her I don't think we can mess up too much. The birth mom has actually started a group on her college campus to among other things present open adotion as an alternative for pregant college students. I have seen a lot of negative stories on here and I hope it's because the very positive ones like ours do not seek out (or in less numbers) sites like these. Our open adoption has really evolved and at the begining I wouldn't have imagine this. We really have adopted two entire families. We are difinitely Mom and Dad. We have never felt intuded upon. We have even asked b-GP's for advice. I think the bottomline is if you are dealing with "good" people and the child is the focus it will work (with God's help of course). My heart goes out to thoughs that have had not so great experiences.
To answer more specifically the initial questions.
Yes more time in the future.
No, I do not think she will stay over night with b-parents but maybe b-grandparent. I do think b-mom and or b-dad migth stay with us.
I can't remember the other questions. I just wanted to be an example of an very open adoption that (at least so far) is working great for perspective a-parents and b-parents.
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