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Hi Jackie,
I made a copy of that letter and may send it to my dd also. She told me she needed space and I took her at her word. There was no contact for 5 months. Nothing at Christmas or New Years, then her birthday rolled around. She had told me she was busy and infrequent contact would be ok. I didn't know what she meant so waited for her to make the next move so I'd know how to set the pace. About 3 days after her birthday she wrote me a "whatup?" to let me know she was thinking of me. With the response I've gotten so far, I have pretty much given up on having that dreamed of relationship and realized I got what I needed most anyway(to know she was ok).I had resigned myself to moving on. When she wrote me I felt so bad about ignoring her birthday( I thought of nothing else the whole day). She said she understood my reason. I really was trying to respect her wishes and afraid to make a move in any direction. I felt I had overwhlmed her and my timing was all off just to pop into her life.It seems I screw up every time I do and even when I don't. I'm glad she's seems so understanding and hope she doesn't secretly resent me for not acknowleging her birthday.
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