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Nervous about first contact
I have run through my mind several times also what to say or what it will be like to make contact with our birthmother. I'm hoping to have a very open relationship with her, but it's a very scary thought. My husband and I have wanted another child for so long, that I think our fear is that we will say something wrong and jeapordize our chance as well. The unknowns are so intimidating. I can say, however, that we have been given the same advice by many, to just be ourselves, and if it is meant to happen, all will go smoothly.
I've also been told not to think about what that initial meeting will be like, but to just let it happen naturally. It's very hard though not to think about what you will say, or how things will go, when you've been wanting another child for so long.
This has been one of the most exciting, yet emotional times in our lives. We just can't wait to match up with someone and share our little one with both families.
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1st DD Hannah Nicole
received her wings, July 03 
2nd DD May 94  
12yr ttc
Began adoption July 07
Possible match family placement Oct. 07
Fell through Nov. 07 
Jan. 08 Got call ....not chosen by emom
03-07-08 Matched - emom due March 11th
Call 03-08-08, lead 4 families to think they were going to parent her baby 
Call 03-10-08, she wasn't even pregnant 
Waiting again.
03-17-08 Had to turn down baby girl, couldn't get flight before discharge
Our hearts are breaking and waiting again.
04-29-08 Got call....not chosen by emom due in June
06-17-08 Got call....not chosen by emom due July 6th
Profiled 07-18-08 for emom due in Nov. - emom decided to parent 08-25-08
Profiled 07-25-08 for emom due in Oct. - never heard back from emom
Profiled 08-12-08 for emom due in Sept. - never heard back from emom
Trying not to get discouraged, but getting more difficult every day.
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