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Wow, such amazing stories, so much pain and loss. I had to catch up, as it seems we have touched on something here. There are too many to quote, but so many interesting thoughts. I would like to say to Jackie, what a wonderful post. A horrible thing to happen, but your words have touched so many. You are a brave, strong woman. I really think that your doctor may have needed a doctor of her own. Julie was right to tell Janny to stick with you, as I can say personally, you have helped me so many times, I can't even begin to count them. I'm sure Janny will only grow stronger under your guidance.
Agatha, I'm glad you are back. You have always been one of my strongest supporters, and my dear friend. I welcome any input that you have. When I read your thread, about not feeling like you were really part of this, I found it odd, as I have always found you to be deeply touched by your adoption story. You may not talk about it as much as most, but don't sell yourself short, you have always been a part of the group. Sadly missed, but always a part.
Janny, take your time, it is a hard road to walk. You don't have to do it all today, when you feel comfortable, just start talking. The words are not as important as the pain they help release. I can tell you from my own past, that the sooner I started talking, the better I felt. The hardest thing for me was to admit that I had given my child away. I didn't think I would ever be able to tell anybody about that. I was to sad, to ashamed. Now, I can honestly say, it was the best thing I ever did for myself. Everybody here really understands about the pain, the loss. They put a circle around you, when you need it, and don't break it until you are safely past the worst points. It is an amazing place, and some amazing women. When you are ready, let us help.
To all the rest, I can only say, keep on talking. All our stories are different, but have the same core. It is so much easier to speak freely to people who have walked the same roads as you. None of us can afford to judge the other. We truly are a club.
Colleen
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