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I agree, sibling rivalry is REALLY common. And you've only had the little guy two weeks, which isn't very long for your daughter to adapt to what is a major life change for her. Give it some time.
As for "bonding": I really hate this word, because so many people think it means love at first sight. It really is about the development of a relationship over time, as the child has his needs met and the parent learns to perceive the child's cues and meet them. So no surprise you aren't "bonded" yet---you just met the little guy!
The short answer is, you aren't going to "bond" with a newborn any faster, and your daughter won't be less jealous. If you are sure you want to adopt, why not give this relationship some more time? Two weeks is not a very long time, and it's no time at all in terms of making a decision that may affect your whole life. Let things settle out, regain some peace in your home, and see how things feel then. (If you give up this child, you may want to think about whether this is the right time for you to adopt---maybe it might be better for all of you to wait until your daughter is older. Things really aren't likely to be much different with another child.)
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