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my 2 boys - born 4 months apart are now 13 years old. when they were little and people asked *are they twins?* i always said yes. like you all said, it is their story to tell, not mine to every stranger that asks. the funny thing is the boys looked nothing alike - one is chubby and dark, the other is blond and lanky. the only things they have in common are their blue eyes and the fact that they are best friends. when they got old enough to say it themselves they would tell people they were twins. i worried that i had started something bad, but the truth is they really didnt even know what the word *twins* meant. as they got older and one boy grew VERY tall and the other is just average people quit asking if they were twins and it all just went away.
as far as being and ADOPTIVE parent - whatever. because i have so many children people always want to know the details. *all from one mother?* *one family*. they want to know if we are a blended family or if some are adopted. it depends on how they ask as to my answer. if they say - likemost people do - *are they all yours?* i just answer yes. cause of course they are all mine. no i just went around the neighborhood and collected a dozen children and brought them to the mall for the fun of it!
if it is someone sincere learning about adoption then i am happy to tell our story. but i usually never use the term *adoptive parent* or *adopted child*. just mom and dad and kids
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mom 2 many!!
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