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I agree with rottymom to the points of a legally enforcable open adoption agreement. I have a very strong reason why.

When we first adopted our daughter I spoke with her b-gpa and told him I didn't mind him seeing Savannah and her knowing that he is her grandfather, however, I later found out that he had molested C. and continues to manipulate her. After C. told me this I explained to her that I was not at all comfortable with Savannah being with him. I will NOT allow my child to be exposed to such influences and as a parent it is my responsibility to protect her. How horrific it would have been if I would have had to go to court to ammend an agreement for this situation especially in a legal system that seems to think that DNA determines parenting.

That being said - I have a beautiful open relationship with both of my children's birth moms. I love them dearly and pray for their happiness. I continually talk to my children about these ladies and what their role is in our lives. We pray for them - call them on the phone - keep them posted through e-mails and blog postings. I have told them both that I cannot forsee ANY reason at this point that they would not be allowed to be a part of these babies lives, as long as it was healthy emotionally, spiritually and physically. I pray that our relationships will always be as close as they are now - I pray that C. will be there with me to choose Savannah's wedding dress. I pray that A. will be with me when Christopher is preparing for his mission. I pray that they will rejoice with me in our grandchildren. I look forward to years of friendship and sisterhood with these beautiful women and I hope that they will always feel the same.